A direct personal relationship is desired to take away the guilt but that is not possible because our loved one is dead.
However, we may still ask forgiveness of our loved one who has died.
As we enter the holiday season, many of us struggle with how to manage our own grief as well as the grief of people we love.How should we include our loved one’s memory in our celebrations?This is accompanied by the realization that life with loss is their “new normal.” I lost my mother at 9 and father at 12.I remember feeling the expectation of a grief expiration date myself.Helen was last seen walking with her beloved miniature dachshund Boris on 11 April.
On 15 July her family were informed that human remains had been found at the house she shared with her partner. Guilt is a strong emotion which is often magnified because the bereaved are in an extremely vulnerable state. when a loved one has died we are reminded of those hurts and failings, real or imagined, of words we regret saying, incidents we'd like to forget, actions we'd like to take back.The guilt is often experienced when the bereaved try to answer the unanswerable: "Why did my loved one have to die? None of us can live close to another person and love deeply without hurting that person. We consider every possible action that we could have taken or not taken to prevent the death. Often we feel helpless with our guilt because there is little that we can do to correct the situation. On the other side, draw a picture of your family after the death. On one side, draw a picture of your family before the death.There are many feelings that we have when someone dies. You may feel sad or angry or shocked or confused or nothing at all.