My first thought after a friend forwarded me an article about the dating spreadsheet kept by a New York man was, “My spreadsheet is much better!” But after several more people contacted me about the news item — including a former girlfriend who had no knowledge of my spreadsheet but apparently knows me all too well — I started to think that, more than just yet another Internet meme, such spreadsheets actually captured the zeitgeist of modern dating.
David Merkur, 28, recorded details on the spreadsheet about each of the 12 women he was dating along with scores on how the relationship was progressing, using categories to rank their physical appearance, comments on the dates and their personalities.
He rated a woman's physical appearance on a scale between one and 10. The spreadsheet was colour-coded: blue indicated upcoming dates, orange meant "monitor closely" and bold signified "ASAP", or as soon as possible.
I, like David Merkur, work in finance and stare at Excel for 12 hours a day.
For better or worse, those little Microsoft-created cells are how I organize my thoughts.
"Dating spreadsheet guy" is the romantic anti-hero, someone who hopes to manipulate love (in Excel!
), someone who needs to "keep track" of dates as if they were possessions, someone who judges on paper.
During the date he told her about his unique system for keeping track of his dozen dates and then forwarded her the spreadsheet, to prove that she was at the top of the list.
Merkur ranked Arielle a nine out of ten for her online appearance and described her as ‘very pretty, sweet and down to earth/great personality’.
"Dating spreadsheet guy" (or girl) is the romantic anti-hero, someone who hopes to manipulate love (in Excel!
), someone who needs to "keep track" of dates as if they were inanimate objects, someone who makes harsh judgments via paper or computer documents.
I hope this email doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :)." Arielle, who Merkur described as "very pretty, sweet and down to earth" with a "great personality", forwarded the email to one of her friends. He met eight of the women he dated through the internet dating website and the other four through friends and family. For Liliana, who scored a 9.5, he wrote: "Looks beautiful; from coastal Romania; Chanel make-up artist," but later added how her old boyfriend "might be back in the picture".