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That didn’t stop the intense expression of confusion that spread across his face.“So you’re a man? “Do you know how lucky you are that I’m not, like, crazy?
Because I know plenty of guys who would really do some shit to you.”“No, I’m a woman, a transgender woman,” I answered, trying to make him understand. His entire view of me had changed and there was no going back.
As a bisexual Ft M, the issue around my trans and bisexual identity does involve some sort of disclosure for me.
I have to give some of my dates a trans 101 lesson.
Despite one pervasive misconception that transgender people transition for the approval or acceptance of future sexual partners, when I transitioned there was nothing about the forthcoming experience that assured me I would be seen as desirable. But when you’re trans, it’s hard in a completely different way.
I didn’t know if I’d ever have the chance to be loved. It’s all too easy to internalize the assumptions that we are rudimentary facsimiles of the people we actually want to be, or that we take on a lifestyle that’s all about mutilating our “God-given, natural” bodies.I vowed as I left his place in the middle of the night that I would never put myself in that dangerous of a situation again.And even though I now make sure people know my identity before I’m alone with a potential partner, there are still some aspects of this interaction that seem to show up in my dating life no matter how many precautions I take.I like to imagine that if I wasn’t trans I would go to any random hangout and pick up any woman or man I spoke to, without taking my complicated relationship with my body and gender into consideration.However, in reality this is just not who I am, trans or not.Now that I finally feel secure in who I am as a person and as a queer man, I have started to think about dating as an Ft M (Trans Man). For a long time, I had not really felt secure in who I was, let alone confident enough to ask someone out.