And I as I came to know him better, he didn't disappoint me.
So at the ripe age of 30, I have given up on trying to find my Mr Right. In Beijing, even the most average Western men are able to attract pretty Chinese girls, who seem to be under the impression that they have all the style and sophistication of Daniel Craig.As a result, the streets of the city are filled with smug-looking Western guys holding hands with their pint-sized Chinese princesses.The initiation and maintenance of intimate, romantic relationships have been linked with improved physical and emotional well-being, stronger perceptions of community attachment, and better developmental outcomes for the individuals (e.g., Amato ).During adolescence and the early adult years, dating enhances identity formation for individuals and provides socialization experiences which are necessary to forming and maintaining intimate and interpersonal relationships in life (Chen et al. Although researchers have directed their efforts toward a better understanding of the dynamics of dating and partner selection, focusing upon the influence of such elements as the family environment (e.g., parental divorce, parental marital quality, parent-child relationships), peer relationships, and community factors (Bryant and Conger ), the majority of studies focusing upon dating and romantic relationships have utilized samples of Western youth.But there is one problem: They only know about China.
The communist country has no experts with first-hand knowledge of other ancient civilizations in Egypt, Mesopotamia or India.Living as I do in a city as vibrant and bizarre as Beijing has its good points – and its bad.Although exciting and unpredictable, from its fascinating culture to its mind-bending language, it’s certainly not an ideal place to find long-term love, no matter how beautiful, smart, successful and hilarious you may be.In September 1999 -- my first month in China -- I had a huge crush on a guy.My heart melted at that first sight of his big sesame-oil brown eyes.When I thought about my burgeoning crush for Tian, I figured it was no different from that college semester when I studied in Spain.