Break up dating again

I'd have to call in sick and take time to go home and sob my eyes out.

Whenever this emotional roller coaster ends, you'll notice.

For me, when I had my heart broken, things as simple as my coffee tasting poorly would ruin my day.

And if I saw an old person trying to cross the street, FORGET ABOUT IT.

But research shows that online dating is now the number-one way to meet people for the over 50s, and as the number of users aged over 45 overtake those under 25, experts say it’s time we started embracing technology when it comes to our love lives.

“Dating in midlife and beyond can be daunting,” says relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James.

This reflective stage can feel painful and uncomfortable, but it’s a gift at its core.

“The ends of relationships teach us so much about ourselves: our style of communication, whether that style is effective or not, how we handle insecurities, conflict, and co-existing as an individual and as part of a two-some simultaneously,” said another contributing psychologist, Sanam Hafeez, Psy. At the end of the day, whether you go to bed alone, next to a new person you swiped right on, or curled up with a book by a supposed dating expert, the only person who really knows what you need is you.With every breakup, there’s always this point when you’ve stopped crying and you start to think about dating again.Now here’s the thing: we live in a culture where we’re encouraged to pull up our bootstraps and ‘get back on the horse,’ so to speak – even when it comes to matters of the heart.“It can feel like you have to start all over again, and the routes you probably used when you were younger might not be open to you anymore.It doesn’t help that most of your friends are likely to be coupled up, so it’s not uncommon to feel isolated and unsure where to start.However, she says, one month is a sound period of time to wait before returning to the ultra-vulnerable place that is dating. Playing the self-love game reinforces our independence, which is a critical factor in upholding healthy relationships.