Bipolar is a disease of being emotionally 'off balance' much of the time, and many times in a romance people feel the same way, especially during the early stages.
Dating someone who has bipolar can be exhausting in the first few months of intense attachment because it will sometimes trigger an episode when the person swings abruptly from idealizing their partner to becoming very possessive and jealous.
After all, dating is an emotional rollercoaster to begin with.
Big things can erupt from something so small, and it’s important you remember – and they remember – that they don’t mean what they say when angered.If in a manic episode, it’s likely that nasty thing they said was the bipolar talking and not them.Take my friend Jerome, hired one summer to drive a van full of rich and annoying European teenagers across the country. I didn't hear Sara's story until later, but it didn't have many funny parts.Somewhere in the Midwest, without telling the kids or his employer or anyone else where he was going, he simply got out at a gas station and walked away. Her condition was rooted in a childhood depression that began when her father died suddenly of stomach cancer. Then came her diagnosis, and years of experimenting with different psychiatric drugs until her doctors found the magic combination.Navigating any romantic relationship -- whether it's dating or marriage -- can be a tricky endeavor.
Add bipolar disorder with its roller-coaster ride of emotions into the mix, and relationships become even more challenging.When Jim Mc Nulty, 58, of Burrillville, Rhode Island, got married in the 1970s, everything seemed fine at first."It was an absolutely normal courtship," he recalls. During his "up" or hypomanic states, he would spend huge sums of money he didn't have.It’s important that you are able to distinguish between a normal day and a symptom of bipolar.Do not accept the illness as an excuse for treating you poorly. Like everyone else, a person with bipolar disorder still needs to apologise should they have said something out of line in a row. ’ is not an appropriate thing to say when your partner is annoyed at you for not picking up dinner when you said you would.It's not impossible, and it can be incredibly loving and rewarding, but it can also be a real challenge.